Loved, Chosen & Accepted!

As I was reading my devotional today it reminded me of how by Jesus we are loved, chosen & accepted. This made me think of my children & how I have loved, chose & accepted them, it was a choice! So my question to you is what choices have you made? Have you chose to think of your stepchildren as "his" or "her" kids? Do you make a difference between your biological children and your mates children? Do you work as a team with all who are involved in the children's lives? Do you really think that your attitude towards your family situation does not only effect the children but rubs off on them? So my question to you is what choices are you going to choose to make from this day forward? It's never to late to make a change!

Exposure!!!!!

EXPOSURE!!!

What you are exposed to dictates how you act. Think about the first time you did something or went somewhere, it was a different experience, maybe good or bad, but definitely different. If you are exposed to negative things then your outlook is going to be negative. My mission is to expose you to a blended family that is Blended 4 a Purpose and prayerfully you will discover how yours is Blended 4 a Purpose. Society has put a bad image of blended families, baby mama's & baby daddy's, stepchildren & step parents. We continue to support this negative image by supporting the songs, TV shows, and encouraging disrespect & immaturity! I'm not perfect and I will admit that there was a time that I talked about and acted nasty to members of my blended family. This weekend me and my children's other mother worked out together and on the way home we were talking about marriage and ugly things that unfortunately can happen in a marriage. As she was telling me a story about a lady in her group, I said that was my story. I had been through some of the things she was talking about and not only that, some by her. As we continued to talk she said that she didn't feel that she had done some of the things she was sharing with me about but she apologized for any wrong doing she has ever done to me! WOW!!! I never would have imagined that our lives would turn out like this. As I thought about it, I don't know why I am amazed because I serve an amazing God! I prayed for my blended family but my prayers were selfish and many times I didn't understand what God was doing and truthfully I was mad at God but what God has done has exceeded my expectations! God's plan was for me to expose you to something different! Yeah I know when people see me and my children's other mother at events together, planning things together, talking and sharing our struggles and issues they think its weird. I want you to look and think past the weirdness, pass your uncomfortableness, maybe why you think it's so weird because there is still anger and hatred in your heart and us getting along reminds you of how wrong you are! Whatever the case is.... Here we are to continue to expose you to something different!! 

Are you struggling?

How many people are struggling in their bended family? In some cases we are too emotionally involved to see any solutions. If you are still in love with your ex, despite the fact that they have moved on, You will not be able to come up with solutions that will help your blended family because your motives are wrong. If every time you see your mates "baby momma" your whole attitude changes or you are secretly wishing for their demise.... Your situation won't get better. Sometimes we have to look at our situations from a safe emotional distance in order to make the right decisions. Blended means we are connected somehow, no matter if you like it or not! How can a person wish their foot was cut off or would disappear and think that they can fully function? You can't! The same is with your blended family, in order to function all members must participate and function towards a common goal!

What relationships need to be healed?

What relationship needs to be healed??? When you are in conflict with someone it takes your strength away from other areas in your life that are more important. Trust me all relationships can be healed. Sometimes we hold onto grudges to have a reason to hold on to something, really someone. How would your life look if you would just LET GO????? Let go of the hurt, betrayal, broken promises & unfullfilled dreams and pick up hope, faith, forgiveness & freedom! Lets work on ourselves and watch what difference we can make in our blended families!