You can't receive what you are unwilling to give!

You can’t receive what you are unwilling to give seems like such an easy concept but is one of the hardest things for people to do, especially in blended families. It amazes me how people want respect, acknowledgement, consideration, love, friendship, communication, etc… and the exact things that they not only want, they expect, cannot be given back in return. How do you expect your ex’s partner to respect you yet you talk about them to the children? How do you expect the mother of your children to communicate with you about everything that goes on with the children but she gets no response when she asks you for help with something that the children need. Children are not exempt from this principle either. How can you expect your step mother/father to provide for you, be there for you, etc… and you never once call to see how they are doing or are quick to say that they are not your real parent? As you can see, the key to most of our issues within a blended family deals with “I”!! We must look within, admit to what WE are dealing, and become the change that we desire! A family cannot be whole with a whole bunch of broken pieces that no one is willing to fix!