The hand we were dealt!

Watching Stepmom, one of my favorite movies, and Ben says to his mother, "If you want me to hater, I will". How many of our children feel like that because of how we feel and our behaviors? Children feed off of their parents and they learn how to act by what we model. I was watching another movie some time back where the mother had died and left letters to her husband, kids, and her. Who is her??? The women that she knew her husband was going to be with. In the letter she tells the lady that she is the second most important person in her children's life!! Wow!! How many ladies feel that? If you feel that way or not, it is the truth. Your ex's partner is just as influential in their lives as their birth parents. Something I never understood is how people are so picky about what daycare, school, etc... their child attends, who they are around but refuses to get to know, respect, help, pray for, and even communicate with the person their ex is involved with! Like it or not, this person is going to have an effect on your child/children, wouldn't it be great and beneficial to everyone to form a coalition to provide the best environment in spite of! We may not like the hand that we were dealt, but we can work as a team and together have a full house!