You can't deny who you are!

I woke up this morning thinking about how I wanted some oatmeal and toast. Not just any oatmeal and toast, the old fashioned way like my grandmother use to make for me. She would put the butter on the bread and put it in the broiler part of the stove and she would cook the oatmeal on the stove made with Carnation milk instead of water, butter, and brown sugar. My grandmother and I didn't have a good relationship, in fact, I hadn't seen her for years before she died. So because of that, I liked to just identify with my mother's side of the family or just my dad, not his family. Lying here thinking about what I wanted for breakfast made me think of the other qualities that I have like my grandmother. I use to always just think of the negative qualities or memories. What came to me this morning is that by doing that, I'm not being authentic to myself, to who I am. How many people talk bad about somebody in their or their child's life? Does your child only think about or even know about the bad things about one of their parents? Do you only say the negative things about your child's other parent? Doing this says negative things about who your child is. You can't change who your child's other parent or other family is, it's too late for that, but that is also who your child is too! Always portraying a negative picture is creating a negative picture of your child also. It doesn't matter if that parent or family is absent in your child's life, they are still apart of your child and your child needs to know who and what makes them up. Not just the negative, the positive also! Change is a decision. What can you change today to move to your authentic self or help your child become authentic?